Flirting is a rough game sometimes. What to say, and more importantly, what not to say? How am I coming off? Do I seem like a creep? Are they even listening? Am I smiling too much? Am I not smiling enough?
Stressful, we know. So some of them men here at Aggie Radio want to give some advice to the ladies of the world to help them through that rough flirting stage. Remember, signals show interest, and incentives matter. (Those are the only two things I have learned in my two Economics classes)
Don’t “Dumb Yourself Down”
Intelligent girls are attractive, and anyone who says otherwise is wrong. We don’t live in the 30’s, you don’t have to take a back seat intellectually to men. When a girl can hold her own in a conversation, or even a friendly debate, it shows she is confident and not afraid to have an opinion. This scores points. Talking to a pole is only fun for all of… never.
Be Real
Don’t try to be “what we want” — you become transparent, and there’s nothing less attractive than a girl trying to be somebody else. If you’re real, there’s a real shot we can like you.
Laugh at our Jokes
Now, don’t take this one too far. We aren’t comedians, but if we’re being honest here, most of us guys believe we deserve at least a medium sized chuckle at the end of every thought. It’s a good way for us to measure interest. That being said, some of us aren’t funny. You need not laugh when something isn’t funny at all. It really just makes the situation pathetic for both parties involved. It’s your prerogative.
Don’t Be Too Nervous
Chances are, us men are just as nervous as you ladies, if not more. There is pressure both ways to meet a certain expectation and come off as a potential partner. We aren’t gods, on the contrary, we’re quite simple, so why worry so much? A calm mind will be a great asset. The most fun you can get out of a flirtationship is when everyone is mature enough to just relax and have a good time.
Don’t Be Confusing
I understand, men are often simple and heedless to women’s thoughts and feelings. Many times when a guy says, “Dude she’s sending me mixed signals,” it’s simply due to the fact that that guy doesn’t know how to signal-read. Quite often though, during the courting process girls will throw out a signal or drop a hint, and then drop a signal that is completely contrary to the previous signal. I’m not trying to pretend this is exclusive to women, I’ve been often told that us dudes do this just as often. Anyone who does this either has conflicting feelings or is extremely indecisive, which becomes frustrating to the other person. So be straightforward with your feelings.
Love Yourself
It is a common saying, “You can’t love someone else if you don’t love yourself.” We do realize not everyone has the unwavering self attraction some men do, but please don’t sell yourself short. Body image may be sensitive, but loving yourself is genuinely attractive. Nobody’s perfect, why do so many of us feel we need to be? It’s a common belief among women that all men want a classically mainstream, TV-ad type of girl. We don’t want that. We want a 3-dimensional human being who has flaws and insecurities, but is ultimately more than what you perceive your body to be. Men want a variety of things in personality and body type. So be who you are and love that person.
