Through a vast majority of my life I have loathed Valentines day. Too many cheesy gifts and forced expression of love. Don’t even get me started on having to buy a valentine for every person in the class.
The last two Valentines days have been far from spectacular. Last year I just chilled at home and the year before that I was recovering from a major surgery. This year I had the pleasure of spending time with someone and being – other than on the tail end of a cold – healthy.
My co-host JaCoby and I like to end our radio program with words of love and well being. With all of the crummy stuff that happens in the world – some of which we discuss on our program – we always like to end on a positive and happy note.
It is easy to sit in a radio booth and say these things. There is no real accountability involved if I don’t live exactly as I say at the end of my program. But the thing is, I should be. I am happier when I do spread the love to all and do tell the people in my life how much they mean to me.
The fact this happened on Valentines day is a coincident, but works out pretty well. After spending the day together, my girlfriend and I sat and talked. We had a true heart-to-heart and left nothing on the table. It started by doing the 36 questions leading to love. The questions start off pretty broad, and get more and more personal.
Many of the questions we have already discussed with each other, but this list brought out new questions and ways of thinking about each other. And what it lead to? Love.
By the end of it we had the most open and loving discussion we have ever had. Not the romantic love associated with Valentines day, but pure spiritual love from one human to another.
Simple. Happy. Pure. True. Love.
I din’t feel this love because she is my girlfriend. I didn’t feel it because it was Valentines day. I felt it because I was completely vulnerable with her, as she was with me in our discussions.
And this love can be felt by anyone, toward anyone.
We should be honest with people on how we feel. We should ask for help. We should serve people. We should serve even more people. And then serve even more people. We should celebrate the fact that there are wonderful people all around us. We should bring down our walls and be vulnerable to people, to let them in our lives and our hearts.
We shouldn’t keep our love to our significant others. We should give it to everyone. I had reinforced today that love is endless. I hope that we all can feel of this love.
To the reader: I love you. Through your struggles, your joys, your good times and bad, you are an amazing person that deserves to be loved, and I love you.
I hope that you can spread that love too, in even the smallest of ways.
